وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا عَرَّضْتُم بِهِۦ مِنْ خِطْبَةِ ٱلنِّسَآءِ أَوْ أَكْنَنتُمْ فِىٓ أَنفُسِكُمْ ۚ عَلِمَ ٱللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ سَتَذْكُرُونَهُنَّ وَلَـٰكِن لَّا تُوَاعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا إِلَّآ أَن تَقُولُوا۟ قَوْلًا مَّعْرُوفًا ۚ وَلَا تَعْزِمُوا۟ عُقْدَةَ ٱلنِّكَاحِ حَتَّىٰ يَبْلُغَ ٱلْكِتَـٰبُ أَجَلَهُۥ ۚ وَٱعْلَمُوٓا۟ أَنَّ ٱللَّهَ يَعْلَمُ مَا فِىٓ أَنفُسِكُمْ فَٱحْذَرُوهُ ۚ وَٱعْلَمُوٓا۟ أَنَّ ٱللَّهَ غَفُورٌ حَلِيمٌ 235
Translations
There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allāh knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allāh knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allāh is Forgiving and Forbearing.
Transliteration
Wa lā junāḥa 'alaykum fīmā 'arrāḍtum bihi min khiṭbati an-nisāʾi aw aknanatum fī anfusikum. 'Alima -llāhu annakum satadhkarūnahunna wa-lākin lā tuwaʿidūhunna sirran illā an taqūlū qawlan maʿrūfan. Wa lā taʿzimū ʿuqdata an-nikāḥi ḥattā yablugha al-kitābu ajalahu. Wa-ʿlamū anna -llāha yaʿlamu mā fī anfusikum faḥdharu. Wa-ʿlamū anna -llāha ghafūrun ḥalīm.
Tafsir (Explanation)
This ayah addresses etiquette regarding proposals to women during their ʿiddah (waiting period) after the death of a husband or divorce. While there is no sin in indirect hints or thoughts about marrying such women—for Allah knows such thoughts are natural—one must not make secret promises or commitments to them. According to Ibn Kathir and Al-Qurtubi, the prohibition against 'aqd (finalizing the marriage contract) stands until the waiting period is complete, and one must observe propriety in all dealings, speaking only in recognized and lawful terms.
Revelation Context
This ayah was revealed in the Medinan period as part of the comprehensive legislation on marriage, divorce, and women's rights. It follows verses addressing the ʿiddah period and aims to balance human nature with moral propriety, preventing exploitation of women in vulnerable circumstances while acknowledging the natural human inclination toward marriage.
Related Hadiths
The hadith from Jābir (Sahih Muslim) describes the Prophet's marriage to Umm Salamah during her ʿiddah through permissible indirect hints rather than direct proposals. Additionally, ʿUqbah ibn ʿĀmir narrated that the Prophet forbade secret agreements with women in waiting periods (Sunan an-Nasāʾī).
Themes
Key Lesson
This verse teaches that Allah is aware of our innermost thoughts and intentions, so we must be sincere and honorable even when unobserved by others. It emphasizes compassion for widows and divorced women by protecting them from exploitation while acknowledging natural human emotions regarding marriage.
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لِلْفُقَرَآءِ ٱلَّذِينَ أُحْصِرُوا۟ فِى سَبِيلِ ٱللَّهِ لَا يَسْتَطِيعُونَ ضَرْبًا فِى ٱلْأَرْضِ يَحْسَبُهُمُ ٱلْجَاهِلُ أَغْنِيَآءَ مِنَ ٱلتَّعَفُّفِ تَعْرِفُهُم بِسِيمَـٰهُمْ لَا يَسْـَٔلُونَ ٱلنَّاسَ إِلْحَافًا ۗ وَمَا تُنفِقُوا۟ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ بِهِۦ عَلِيمٌ
[Charity is] for the poor who have been restricted for the cause of Allāh, unable to move about in the land. An ignorant [person] would think them self-sufficient because of their restraint, but you will know them by their [characteristic] sign. They do not ask people persistently [or at all]. And whatever you spend of good - indeed, Allāh is Knowing of it.
أَمْ حَسِبْتُمْ أَن تَدْخُلُوا۟ ٱلْجَنَّةَ وَلَمَّا يَأْتِكُم مَّثَلُ ٱلَّذِينَ خَلَوْا۟ مِن قَبْلِكُم ۖ مَّسَّتْهُمُ ٱلْبَأْسَآءُ وَٱلضَّرَّآءُ وَزُلْزِلُوا۟ حَتَّىٰ يَقُولَ ٱلرَّسُولُ وَٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ مَعَهُۥ مَتَىٰ نَصْرُ ٱللَّهِ ۗ أَلَآ إِنَّ نَصْرَ ٱللَّهِ قَرِيبٌ
Or do you think that you will enter Paradise while such [trial] has not yet come to you as came to those who passed on before you? They were touched by poverty and hardship and were shaken until [even their] messenger and those who believed with him said, "When is the help of Allāh?" Unquestionably, the help of Allāh is near.
أُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ ٱلَّذِينَ ٱشْتَرَوُا۟ ٱلضَّلَـٰلَةَ بِٱلْهُدَىٰ وَٱلْعَذَابَ بِٱلْمَغْفِرَةِ ۚ فَمَآ أَصْبَرَهُمْ عَلَى ٱلنَّارِ
Those are the ones who have exchanged guidance for error and forgiveness for punishment. How patient they are for [i.e., in pursuit of] the Fire!
وَٱتَّقُوا۟ يَوْمًا لَّا تَجْزِى نَفْسٌ عَن نَّفْسٍ شَيْـًٔا وَلَا يُقْبَلُ مِنْهَا عَدْلٌ وَلَا تَنفَعُهَا شَفَـٰعَةٌ وَلَا هُمْ يُنصَرُونَ
And fear a Day when no soul will suffice for another soul at all, and no compensation will be accepted from it, nor will any intercession benefit it, nor will they be aided.